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5th - 9th December, 2018.

  • a Queer/Inclusive Sacred Sexuality Adventure.

Held over 5 days on a beautiful farm near Glastonbury in Somerset with a group of around 30 people.

'I love the spaces you make - adult and playful and held and clear' - TLSM workshop participant,

consent – ritual – emergent – embodied– diversity – self-development – connection – inspiration – creativity– play - sex magic -  integration

Entering the winter, we follow the cycles together, explore the roots and the ground of our being, deepen our knowledge and awareness and build practices that we can weave into our lives for sustenance and growth.

A group of experienced facilitators will bring their skills and offerings and work together to tune into the energies of the group, the land and themselves, and to shape the event structure based on what is emerging. Held-in-the-Flow will be a lovingly and safely held space where everyone can also be part of the process of creation, as we all continue to learn to trust the integrity of our bodies, our intuitions, our energies and our magical connections.

Cost: £375 (£275 concessions). 

Prices include dormitory accomodation and all food.

To book email: for booking form and payment details.

Further details

Held in the flow is an event for around 30 LGBTQIA+ and other folk who want to explore working with energy, consent, boundaries, touch, sharing, deepening intimacy and connection.

We have 4 facilitators plus two assistants and our plan is to be responsive to the needs of the group, offering what is most needed to safely guide, hold and nurture each other. We want to bring more awareness to our practices (personal spiritual practices and general practices such as awareness, intention, gratitude, presence and kindness): exploring them, opening to opportunities to develop them, integrating new understandings and continuing to learn. We will journey together into the darkness and support and nourish the personal and collective growth of winter. We will tune into the energy of the dark moon, the depth of the winter-time and the fire of the Sagittarius sun and moon.

Please Note: This is a sacred sexuality event so there will be times when nakedness is an option and there may be individual or group intimacy which may include physical and genital touch. There will be opportunities to raise sexual energy together in a ritual space. Everyone will have time to explore their own boundaries around these things and everything will be consensual and come from a position of choice, awareness, respect and connectedness.

Held-in-the-Flow is a Queer/inclusive Sacred Sexuality Adventure.

Queer/Inclusive - because it is primarily a Queer space. People who are comfortable in such a space, whether or not they define as queer, are very welcome. Queer includes LGBTQIA+ and also has a quality of 'gender and sexuality outside the box' and an acceptance of freedom of choice, fluidity and change. It also has a quality of 'queering' accepted definitions and rigid societal structures. It embraces infinite possibilities of sexuality and gender, and infinite ways of being with our sexualities and genders. A Queer/Inclusive space is a space where we try not to make any assumptions as to peoples' genders, sexualities and ways of being. We respect peoples' pronouns and do our best to remember them, while being gentle with each other's mistakes. We come from principles of consent and of respect for everyone's boundaries and choices.

Sacred Sexuality - because we are reclaiming sexuality from the rigid, life-destroying, consumerist, addictive and scarcity-consciousness paradigm current in our society. Sacred means 'considered to be holy and deserving respect' and this is how we view sexuality. We do not perceive it as only contained in the physical/genital realm, but as an energy that is inherent in all humans, and in the land, trees, oceans, wind and fire. It comes from the land to us and through us to each other. Sacred sexuality work is about reconnecting ourselves to the land, reclaiming the sacredness of our bodies, remembering the power of sexual energy and our ability to raise and channel it and to create magic through pleasure. We celebrate sexuality in all its forms as long as it is consensual and connected.

Adventure – because we will be journeying together into places where we haven't been before. Because we are inaugurating a new type of structure that doesn't programme in advance: but instead draws from the offerings, tools and skills of the facilitators according to the energies present, the messages from land and beings, and the issues and impulses arising from the humans within the group. Adventure can involve risk, and we aim to provide the safety for those who wish to move into new realms of experience and enquiry. Adventure also involves gifts, and the recognising and honouring of what is met along the way, and the sustenance and support that is given to us. It involves the noticing and response to what we are asked to give and what we are willing to receive.


This may be adapted as we go along, but gives an idea as to how it will work. On Wednesday participants will arrive from 4pm. Dinner will be at 6pm and the evening will be an 'entering' ceremony. Sunday morning will consist of a 'leaving ceremony' and participants will leave after lunch on Sunday.

Daily structure for Thursday, Friday and Saturday:

9.15 Whole Group gathers, name's circle, connecting with the land.

9.30 Small groups meet (each with a facilitator) to check in.

10.00 Small groups continue to meet without facilitators, with a suggested theme/activity. Facilitators meet to plan the day.

10.30 Coffee break

10.45 Whole group time, facilitators share theme and flow for day, Activity all together to build group connection.

11.30 – 1.00 Workshop/event/activity.

1.00 Lunch

2.30 – 4.30 Workshop/event/activity.

4.30 – 6.00 Free time

6.00 Dinner

7.30 – 8.15 Whole Group - Integration time

8.15 – Evening activity/ritual/event.


Al Head

Al Head is a queer, genderqueer human. Que has been a pagan for over 35 years and led rituals and workshops for about this time. At the same time que has been an earth, disability and lgbtq activist, working on building community and making safe spaces for lgbtq+ people. Que is also a performer and workshop leader in drama, aerial and physical theatre and Fooling, a singer/songwriter, a musician, and a writer. Last year que published ques first book, 'Queer Deity, Sacred Slut'. Que is a certified teacher in Re-evaluation Counselling (co-counselling) and has experience of supporting people through healing from trauma and abuse.

Al has been consciously learning and developing sex magic for around 15 years, and in 2014 started leading 'This Land Sex Magic' workshops. These have been one day, two day and weekend workshops and have taken place in many places in the UK, as well as Berlin and Sweden. Part of the work has involved building a pool of assistants and networking with and supporting other facilitators of sacred sexuality, and so this 5-day event, working together with others, feels like a natural, and exciting progression.

Qweaver Jackson

Qweaver is a a queer explorer, sex positive, activist, poet, healer who has run workshops and events in queer spaces over a number of years.  These are safe spaces for intentional exploration, practice and affirmation, accepting and celebrating each as they are whilst tuning into the potential for growth, together.


Self-awareness, self-love & self-care are foundational to love-full, authentic living. Bringing intentionality to these practices is a vital life skill that is transformative and deeply magical. Qweaver is also fascinated by ceremony, movement, meditation, toning, touch as tools of consciousness, healing, embodied routes into pure presence.

Tom Cowan

Tom is a passionate and good humoured Vajrasati yoga teacher, sharing a therapeutic, mindful and inclusive practice.  He has a passion for nature connection work bringing awareness and meditative practices into the wild outdoors. He facilitates group work within the LGBTQ community for different organisations including Loving Men, Queer Spirit Festival and the Radical Faeries. 

Mary Newing

Mary is a holistic practitioner offering one-one sessions and holding space for groups. Touring the festival circuit during the summer and based in West London during the winter. She has worked at a diverse range of festivals, Glastonbury, Buddhafield, Boomtown, SummerHouser Weekend, Quntinsensual and Queer Spirit to name but a few. Her one-one sessions are a blend of her skills based on the client’s needs. Her initial bodywork training was Thai Massage which she continue to deepen by studying with highly respected teachers from around the world and softened by moving towards the energetic and spiritual, studying Reiki, Tantra and Shamanism. Mary completed teacher training with Shivananda in India and Elemental School of Chi Kung in London. As well as teaching yoga and mediation she runs tantra workshops and has been combining tantra with rope bondage as a medium for communication and transformation. She is also a regular part of the Koinonia team and organising teams for Radical Faerie gatherings.  

Daniel Morrison - Assistant.

Daniel has been involved in sacred sexuality and conscious connection for several years. He has assisted with facilitation and organisation at various workshops and events.  He's a single parent, Buddhish, activist, and a queer transgender warrior.

Eva Weaver - assistant

Eva Weaver is a queer writer, artist, sex-coach and bodyworker. She has been involved in the area of conscious sexuality, conscious kink and tantra for many years and believes passionately in the power of community and our birthright to a unique expression of our sexuality and creativity. 

In her work she supports people who feel disconnected from their sexuality for whatever reason to find gentle ways to reclaim the joy of their sexuality, feel empowered and alive again. To support and be in queer, inclusive, creative community is one of the deepest joys. 

Lloyd Collins – Food Co-ordinator

I was always a big boy, second helpings were never enough for me. I try to minimise my greed to sometimes I just cant help myself. I’ve always been passionate about food, creating and eating delicious meals. I’m looking forward to keeping everyone well fed and nourished throughout the event. Having an interest in the link between food and state of mind as well as general wellbeing has lead me in personal exploration of whole food, raw food, low carb and paleo diets and other aspects of healthy eating. My passion for eating has also led me on an exploration of big piles of naughty greasy deliciousness so there may be influences from both sides! I’m experienced in event catering both in manging the kitchen and teams to produce food for large numbers and I’m feeling excited about being part of the Held in the Flow team.